How are you living your life?
Do you pause to reflect?

We live in a world that moves fast. It's increasingly easy to feel like life is something that happens to us, rather than something that we steer, guided by the compass of our values.

One of the simplest and most powerful tools we have is the ability to pause and reflect. Pausing creates a space where we can reflect on our behavior, understand how we can make better choices and reimagine our lives.
In the Jewish tradition, the High Holy Days that surround the Jewish New Year is a time set aside for this exact exercise. That's what inspired us to create this site, which asks you to look inside yourself and determine if you are living the life that's best for you – and the world around you.
Rabbi Peter Rubinstein
Director of Jewish Community and the Bronfman Center at 92nd Street Y
Dov Seidman
Founder and CEO of LRN
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Question 1/14

I live according to my principles, even when it's inconvenient.


Question 2/14

I consciously reflect on the implications of my behavior to others.


Question 3/14

I act quickly to apologize and make amends to the people that I have hurt or injured.


Question 4/14

I use sarcasm in a way that hurts people.


Question 5/14

I fail to give people my full attention because I’m using my phone or other technology during a meeting or at dinner.


Question 6/14

I make myself available to people who are important to me, even when I'm busy working.


Question 7/14

I drop what I am working on to help others if it will help us better achieve our shared goals.


Question 8/14

I talk behind people’s back instead of engaging them directly.


Question 9/14

I hide behind anonymity to make comments on the Internet that I would never say in person.


Question 10/14

I take time away from my work and family to contribute to my community and the world.


Question 11/14

I use my status or power to impose on others in a way that makes them feel bullied or diminished.


Question 12/14

The organization I work for fully reflects my personal mission and values.


Question 13/14

If someone were to ask me to speak about my 'life purpose or mission' and what constitutes my core values – I'm confident I could offer a fairly clear response.


Question 14/14

I can name three things that I want to work on this year to help me live in a way that is more consistent with my purpose and values.


Are you happy with your responses?

This exercise is an opportunity for you to take look at who you are and how you behave. We believe that taking the time to pause and reflect helps us act in ways that are more in tune with values like kindness and generosity.

The higher your score, the more likely you are to be pausing, thinking about your actions and considering how they affect other people.

Based on your responses, your "Pause and Reflect" score, on a scale of 0 to 100, is:

Please pause for one more moment to review your answers, and reflect on the last year.

Can you commit to changing at least one of your behaviors in the coming year to better reflect your values?

That's it.

Reflecting on how we act in the world gives us the opportunity to realign ourselves with our values so we can act differently tomorrow.

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As the pace of our world quickens, it’s increasingly easy to feel like life is something that happens to us, rather than something that we steer, guided by the compass of our values. Without realizing, we can fall into a default setting of reflexive reactivity, telling ourselves that we will get to our real, highest priorities right after we achieve some milestone, round some corner.

This site was created by a small group of people who share an appreciation for the simplest of routines: the deep pause. Pausing creates a space where one can see clearly, differentiate among the competing stimuli of daily life and make determinations about how to best move forward. We believe there is a great power in standing back, taking stock and making the space to make better choices.

There is no time more apt for recalling the value of reflection than the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah. It’s the day Jews the world over pause from asking the urgent, “What do I need to do today?” to ask the deeper questions of, “How have I conducted myself over the past year?” “How do I want to live in the coming year?”

We believe that asking, “Have I taken the time to pause?” can serve as the ultimate New Year’s inquiry. On this Rosh Hashanah, as we pause to examine our actions, let’s also examine our pauses.

The deep pause is not about taking a breather, but reconnecting with our values, principles and deep-seated beliefs. It is about reigniting the pilot light of our conscience. As Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, "in each pause, I hear the call." What call do you hear?

All the best,

  • Rabbi Peter Rubinstein
  • Dov Seidman

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